As a therapist, I am trained to listen to others and help them work through their problem areas.
One of the most common issues I hear from my clients is feeling stuck.
Feeling like they are just in a sinkhole or circling the drain trying to keep from going down.
There are 3 common themes that show up over and over.
Unsure of yourself
When you are unsure of yourself you tend to wait on something to happen before making a decision.
What usually happens in this case is that something will in fact happen and you will then be forced to make a rushed decision because your back will be pressed to the wall with nowhere else to go.
In other words, you have allowed something or someone else make the decision for you instead of you taking control.
Scared of making the wrong decision
Many people prolong making decisions because they are scared of making the wrong decision.
They spend a great deal of time thinking about all of the possible outcomes, worse case scenarios, and how to avoid them.
Thinking things through is absolutely necessary. I highly recommended it.
However, overthought decisions usually end up not being good either.
Overthinking it is simply another way of procrastination to not do what you really need to do.
There is no way to avoid making wrong decisions over the course of your life.
The good news is that once you have made enough bad ones, you make better ones over time because you then know what not to do.
It’s all a part of the process.
Don’t be scared of making wrong decisions.
You can always learn from it, recover, and become wiser as a result.
Expect the worst to happen
I’ve heard many people say things like “every time I try to do something different it never works out.” Or…
“I only end up in a worse situation than where I started.” Or…
“Nothing good ever happens to me.”
Actually, it is all about perspective and energy.
Meaning that if you are a person who always looks at the negative side of everything first, it doesn’t matter what happens, you will always see things as negative or bad.
Doesn’t necessarily mean that what happened was actually bad. Just that it’s the way you chose to see it.
Also, when your expectation is that something bad is going to happen, that is the energy you put out to the universe.
You are almost always sure to get back what you put out into the universe.
It is a boomerang effect.
It’s a little thing called the law of attraction.
The reality is you are never actually really stuck. You always have options.
To avoid being stuck, do the following:
- Trust your gut to make a decision in a timely manner.
- Take no longer than 7 days to make decisions whenever humanly possible.
- Know that no decision will be the wrong decision. You can always recover from something that doesn’t go quite as planned doesn’t go quite as planned.
- Expect good results and that all will work out for your benefit.
And remember, you are only stuck when you choose not to move!